What the forums don’t tell you upfront
I had read forum posts and product descriptions before buying my first genuine Aneros model. The language used words like “waves,” “full-body response,” “involuntary movement.” None of that happened to me for a long time.
What happened instead: an uncomfortable pressure sensation, something close to urgency before a bowel movement, and a feeling of confusion that I was probably doing something wrong.
This is the account I wish I had read before I started.
Why I bought an Aneros in 2021
During the pandemic, I spent significantly more time at home. That gave me time to explore interests I had quietly set aside.
I had always suspected I had a submissive side. Conventional adult experiences were satisfying in certain ways, but often left me with a feeling that something was missing. Japan has a category of adult entertainment called M-kansen — a form of erotic massage that focuses on submissive pleasure and sometimes includes prostate stimulation. After visiting one of these venues and experiencing prostate stimulation for the first time, I wanted to explore further at home.
My first prostate massager was an inexpensive enema-style device from Amazon, which I did not know how to use. Later, after a staff member at an M-kansen venue recommended it, I ordered an Aneros Eupho Trident as my first genuine Aneros model. When it arrived, I had high expectations.
The first several sessions: pressure, not pleasure
The dominant sensation in my early sessions was pressure. Not the radiating, electric feeling I had read about. Pressure. Heaviness. The persistent sensation that I needed a bowel movement.
I remember sitting with that feeling and thinking: how does anyone interpret this as enjoyable?
My body did not respond dramatically. Nothing felt involuntary. I mostly felt a low-grade awkwardness, and after twenty or thirty minutes I would give up and feel mildly frustrated.
I nearly stopped at this point. The gap between what I expected and what I experienced was wide.
Why I kept going despite this
The honest reason I kept going was not willpower or discipline. It was stubbornness combined with something harder to name — a feeling that I was standing in front of a door I hadn’t learned to open yet.
A staff member at the M-kansen venue I visited had told me, in plain terms, that it takes time for the body to learn to distinguish pressure from pleasure in this area. She said many people stop too early, right before the sensation begins to shift.
That stayed with me.
The turning point: a TV while doing nothing
One piece of advice I found useful came from a forum post that suggested inserting the device and simply watching television — doing nothing, not focusing on sensation, just letting time pass.
I tried this. Over several sessions of essentially ignoring the Aneros while watching something on a screen, the pressure sensation gradually became less alarming. It stopped feeling urgent. It became background noise.
This was not pleasure. But it was the beginning of neutral — and from neutral, something else eventually became possible.
Roughly two months in
Around two months after I first started, I had a session at the M-kansen venue where my body began responding differently. A spreading sensation rather than a localized pressure. I noticed I was breathing differently without deciding to.
It was unmistakably distinct from the first months. For the first time I felt certain that the sensations could develop further. Around the three-month point, I reached my first clear dry orgasm at the venue and also reached a clear orgasm at home during the same period.
That session was not reproducible on demand. I spent another year learning to access it more consistently, and I am still working on that.
What I would tell someone starting now
The pressure sensation is almost universal in early sessions. It does not mean you are doing it wrong. It also does not mean you are close — it may take months before anything shifts.
What helped me: not forcing anything, long acclimation periods before active sessions, paying attention to relaxation and breathing rather than trying to make something happen, and using video content to occupy my attention during the early learning phase. Japanese adult video in particular — I find the visual stimulation helps focus my attention and relax at the same time. I still use it during most sessions.
Stop if you feel actual pain, and stop if strong urgency does not fade after ten or fifteen minutes of relaxed sitting. If symptoms persist or you notice unusual discharge or difficulty urinating, see a doctor.
The sessions I use now
My current sessions typically last two hours, two or three times a week. I insert the device, allow ten to fifteen minutes for acclimation, and spend the session watching video content rather than focusing directly on sensation.
The video I watch is Japanese AV — specifically content from platforms like FANZA and MGStage, which carry a wide selection of Japanese adult videos. The atmosphere of the content matters more to me than the content itself: slow pacing, focus, an absence of aggressive editing.
I still own the Eupho Trident I started with. It is not the model I currently use most often. For beginners I would actually recommend starting with a model that has more physical presence — the Eupho is quite subtle, which I now appreciate, but it was not the best first device for learning.
More on model selection in other articles on this site.